Should Moms Be Selfish?
After 21 years of marriage, 10 children, a business, a book, and a career as a personal trainer, I have learned through some brutal realizations that if I don't take care of myself, I'll lose myself. If I lose myself, I'll lose my family.
The first step to being a good mom, wife and person is to be true to yourself. Fill your cup first and those around you will reap the benefits of a healthier, happier mom, wife and woman.
It's a must, not a choice. Stop the constant giving and take time to rejuvenate your own spirit. Here are 7 guilt-free steps to putting yourself first on your to-do list.
Your Household Is a Business
If you were a CEO of a Fortune 500 company and needed more help to finish a project, you would get it -- guilt-free. Apply that same concept to your home operations. If you need help in some areas of your life, such as grocery shopping, cooking or serving as family chauffeur, get it. Like a business, delegating the work efficiently will make your company prosper. Set yourself up for success.
The "Me" Aisle
At the grocery store, make a mental note to shop for yourself. Use a portion of the cart and fill it with items just for you. Include healthy food or treats that you wouldn't normally buy for the kids and be sure to stop by the "me aisle" and snag a few of those bath beads, a new lip gloss, a flavored coffee or green tea.
Ditch the "Mom" Jeans
Nothing gives your body a quick makeover like a good pair of jeans. Get something that lifts and holds you right where you need it to.
Your Body Is Like A Car
You need to keep up on the maintenance schedule or it will fall apart on you. You'll need to exercise at least four times a week. Put this on your schedule. If you wait until you find time to work it in, you'll be waiting forever. Put exercise on your list and do it – just like an oil change!
Good Hair Day
If your hair looks good, you feel good. It's how we women are wired. I know that most days it's easiest to throw on a hat or hide your hair in a ponytail, but setting time to do your hair will give you that little extra boost of self-confidence as you move through your day.
Connect with Friends
Having a quick laugh with a friend can boost your mood. Don't push them off, instead make a point to emotionally connect with another person in your day. It can be as easy as going on a walk, joining a book club or meeting for coffee.
Schedule Time for You and your Husband
Before kids, it was just the two of you. Don't lose that now that you've taken on the role of CEO of the house. Nurture that primary relationship. It will fill your emotional cup and reinforce to your children the security of that relationship. Knowing you took a coffee break, met for lunch or went out on a walk together keeps you connected in ways that will trickle down to the rest of the family.