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I myself had my son at 14 years old.  I have heard a lot of negative commits for a long time.  What I have learned through the years, is it is not what you say now it is about what you said before.  I grew up in the 80', when talking about sex was still not appropritate, but talking about me was.  I did not want my son to go through the same frustration I went through so I talked to him very early.  The older generation has to understand is that sex is going to happen with or without your permission.  Maybe you did not have sex until you were married, or maybe you had sex once you turned 18 even got married, that is not what is going on today.  Today, is a take control sitution.  You have to get away from, I want to be my child friend.  Talk to your child early in life, Jr High.  If, you recall I said I was pregnant at 14, think! What grade do you think I was in?  I was not the only one.  Have a open discussion do not be so scared that you close off the line of communication.  When you do that you have lost that child to someone thier own age and explain to them what sex is all about.  Help them to understand that waiting for sex will make you proud of them and mostly of themselves.  For, the parents that has girls let them know that what they have is a precious jewel, and everyone do not have the right to touch it.  The guys, help them to understand self control.  Where do you think you get Rapers, and Petifiors from men or women who can not control thier own sexual desires.  Understand that life is just a repeat, what you did to your parents will come around to haunt you until you, TAKE CONTROL of IT!  I know a lot of people do not believe in Jesus or Lord and Savior but it is going to take a lot of eyes to see what your child is doing while you are at work and you don't have them.  So, pray over your child and pray with them so they can understand what you want for them.  Make sure they  have pride in themselves, they know they are beautiful, handsome, smart, and special to you.  If, they never feel those things they will be lost to more than just sex for a long time.  If, you are in a abusive relationship help that child now, because now is the most important time.  Think of it this way, you are the Plant Keeper and God decided to give you a special gift one day.  That gift began to grow and grow you took care of it you made sure it was feed and watered.  Then all of a sudden that gift began to act different some weeds has entered in, invaded your gift.  What do you do, cut down the weed or cut down the rose(your gift)?  Take Control!

So when is the best time to start talking to your child about sex, teen pregnancy, abstinence and birth control -- according to The American Academy of Pediatrics, the earlier the better. Laying down a firm and open dialogue about sexuality from the start is the best way to keep communication lines open to them. Sex is a natural part of life and you want your child to have a healthy sex life at some point, so by being able to talk openly yet appropriately for their age will help them make better decisions as they get older. Use everyday moments from the birth of a sibling, cousin or friend, to things they might see on TV, billboards or in books, to ideas they pick up on at school.