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Is it wrong for teens to take a drink now and then? They do in lots of other cultures.

The American Academy of Pediatrics says they are "strongly opposed to the use of alcohol by children and adolescents and supports a ban on alcohol advertising and promotion." They say "alcohol is the drug most often abused by the largest number of children and adolescents."

When kids use alcohol and drugs, they don't realize the point when they have lost control. Unlike most adults who know when they are buzzed or loaded, kids who experiment don't. This is what often leads to poor decision making and tragic results. Addiction is also something children cannot control and kids who start smoking in their pre or early teens often become addicted and have a harder time quitting once they reach maturity and realize the consequences of their addiction.

How can I make sure my teen doesn't get into drugs or alcohol?

The best prevention is talking to your children about the hazards of drug and alcohol use. Another is setting the example. If kids see you smoking, drinking or using drugs, you are sending them mixed messages. If you don't want your child to smoke, drink or use drugs, you must stop the behaviors yourself.

My teen doesn't always tell me everything. How do I know if they're doing drugs or drinking?

One way to see if they are smoking is leave them home alone. Leave 3 cigarettes on the table, then when you come home see if there are any missing or if any are half smoked. That will determine if they are smoking.

I wasn't a saint in high school or college. I want to be a good example, but I don't want to lie to my child. What do I say if my teen asks whether I've ever done drugs or alcohol?