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Quiet Time

Make sure the party's over.   It's hardly fair to expect your kid to go to bed when the whole rest of the household is still in roaring about in full swing.   Sleep time is quiet time, not only for your child, but for the whole house. The TV is off or turned way down, no one's clattering pots and pans in the kitchen, the neighbor isn't mowing the lawn.   As soon as your sleep-resistant child realizes that he's not missing out on something fun, he's more likely to let his sleepiness take over.

Special Things

Give your child some special objects that remain in the bed or crib at all times. A lovey or special pillow or blanket that isn't allowed into the car or playroom becomes an attachment object that children can use to settle down.

Songs and Stories

As terrible as your voice may be, most children love a soft lullaby before bedtime. Learn the lyrics to some of your old favorites and you'll be giving them a musical education at the same time. The Beatles, Elton John, Cat Stevens all have beautiful songs for children that adults can stand to repeat 100s of times without going insane.

Sometimes overstimulation will keep your kid amped up for a while post bedtime. For Some warm milk might help bring them down. Also, calm time such as playing soft music or reading a book in bed with them may help. It?s often difficult to get them there when they are so wired but it?s up to you to stay calm. Try getting them into pajamas -- it might help if you get in yours too -- making way to the bedroom and finishing up the day in there. Let them get comfortable on their bed or in a rocking chair with you and chances are they will come down quickly and you can get to bed sooner as well.