Play a Role in Providing Support for Your Introverted Child
Some of us are more extroverted, some introverted, but, in reality, everyone has a need for friends and companions. It can be hard for children to find their niche during adolescence when the focus is more on fitting in rather than on being an individual. Some kids are late to bloom and are more socially immature than their peers, while others seem years ahead of their time. Regardless, middle school and high school are difficult to navigate all alone, and kids can begin to feel invisible.
You can and should play a large role in providing social support for your child, and this is especially true if he is more of a "loner." Listen without judging, take a genuine interest in your child's ideas and feelings, and reflect the wonderful characteristics he possesses. Point out what you love about him -- a great sense of humor, a passion for knowledge, compassion toward a younger sibling, or a willingness to pitch in. And be sure to let him know that there are people who love and appreciate him.
It's also important to make sure that your child is getting recognition for things that are important to him. This might include inviting family and friends to his musical performance or science fair, finding a community club for him to attend that relates to a special interest of his, or starting a child-parent book or museum group. Have fun with him. What does he love to do? Take a day off and go to an amusement park. Go camping for the weekend. Sit by the pool and read comic books. He'll feel important and more connected. Additionally, talk to your child's teachers and ask them to make a special effort to attend to him in class or take a few minutes after class once a week to talk about an assignment that he aced, or a non-school-related topic. By having people take notice in your child, he will not feel so alone or invisible.