Ways to Show a Mother's Love
I am an adoptive mother and an adoption facilitator. One of the things I notice most about new mothers and fathers is the love that grows from the first time they hold their child in their arms. The love a mother feels for her child is the same whether the child was grown in her own body or in her heart, as when a mother adopts a child.
My children are dear to me, and I find it hard to see them in pain. I feel like a mother hen watching over her baby chicks all the time. Children are resilient in some areas but always need to know they are loved, wanted and are priceless to us, at any age. Even when our children don't need us any longer to tie their shoestrings or to wipe their noses, they still need to know that we care. Often a child will not feel the impact of his mother's love until he becomes a parent himself or his mother is no longer living. Then the power of a lifetime of love the mother provided sets in.
To love and accept our children, even when they are driving us nuts and their behavior is horrid, is most challenging. But the mix of unconditional love and loving limits is the most important duty and obligation a mother can have. Hugs and kisses are special and a necessity. Love can be expressed in many other ways, too, including the discipline and responsibility we give our children. Eye contact and a simple touch on a shoulder or a love pat on the back mean so much and cost so little. Try today to think of ways you can show your children how much you love and value them.
Here are a few demonstrations of love I have found my children are fond of. You can adapt these suggestions according to the ages of your child:
- Outward expressions of affection for your spouse, such as holding hands and warm hugs, are good examples of love and security you can give your children.
- Tuck notes in their lunches or write a note on a napkin or notepaper and put it under their pillow.
- A simple, "I love you!" a smiley face or "You're the greatest!"
- On occasion we have a "backwards day" where we eat dessert first and then the main course; kids love it when their parents are silly at times.
- Let them make their own family photo scrapbook. Try color copying some of the photos in your photo albums – this way you are not losing valuable photos if they cut them up. Recycling old cards and gift-wrap can make nice backgrounds and borders.
Whichever way you choose to share your feelings, remember to do something each day. Experts agree that if children receive their nurturing inside the family they are less inclined to look outside to others. Create a home where love is shown. Any parents, whether rich or poor, can afford this.
These simple actions can have a significant influence on our children's daily lives that will last for a lifetime. The cycle of love between a mother and child will be passed on to their children as well. Stop and enjoy them now. Before you know it, they will be grown and this time will be lost. Start today!