This suggestion comes up repeatedly, largely because it works. For busy people with dawn-to-dusk responsibilities, a calendar keeps you organized. Isn't physical affection a requirement of two grown-ups in a committed relationship? Most people would say yes, so the idea of scheduling a bedroom rendezvous makes perfect sense. While the calendar may seem business-like, you can have fun with the concept. Make sure that you call your husband to confirm the appointment twice. Perhaps you can even be sure you both understand the meeting agenda (phone foreplay can never be underestimated). If, for some reason, the appointment needs rescheduling, consider a make-up that doesn't cancel out your next appointment. The benefit of calendar booking is the assurance of regular intimacy.
- Get Away
- Get it Any Way You Can
Speaking of scheduling, plan a weekend away. Even one night at a motel down the street will do. The time away from the kids is essential to recharging the love life. To accomplish this, book the trip and set up the itinerary, or at least alternate the planning responsibilities. On that itinerary should be time to just be in the hotel room a fair amount to increase the likelihood, if not the occurrence, of unclothed activity. Consider going to different destinations or make it the same hotel every time. Try to plan for this twice a year. It's worth it because it gets you back in touch with each other. It's an old mantra, but scheduling a regular date night can keep the romantic energy flowing as well.
Let's be honest. The opportunity for a whole night of wild activity is going to be rare. Also, the time for it may not always be there either. Make sure you ponder the definition of physical satisfaction for yourself and your partner so that everything from a serious make-out session to making love twice in the same day works for you. Simply watching TV naked, without having more happen (though that might increase the chances), can put enough affection in your week to keep you going.
Hopefully, these suggestions provide you and the guys involved in the equation with ways to not only get more physically active, but receive all the benefits of increased intimacy. As much as men like to pretend that all they care about is the big climax, there are a lot of men who simply want to keep the relationship communication and spark burning bright. Play into that and you'll reap the rewards of a happy man.
2005 Gregory Keer. All rights reserved.
Gregory Keer is a syndicated columnist, teacher, and on-air expert on fatherhood. His Family Man column appears in publications across the country, including L.A. Parent, Boston Parents' Paper, Bay Area Parent, Long Island Parenting News, Metro Augusta Parent, and Sydney's Child in Australia. Keer's concurrent column, Today's Family Man, is found at his online fatherhood magazine, www.FamilyManOnline.com. He also writes for Parenting magazine and the Parents' Choice Foundation as well as such sites as DrLaura.com, Parenthood.com, Pregnancy.org, FamilyResource.org, GardenAndHearth.com, SheKnows.com, KeepKidsHealthy.com, and CanadianParents.com. On television, Keer has appeared on morning shows and cable specials. He is the father of three sons and husband to Wendy, a professor in child-development.
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