Harmony at Home
Mercy Pardon's 11-year-old daughter, Christina, comes home from school with the same unhappy look on her face. Lately she's been feeling alienated – unable to make friends at school where she is constantly being picked on. At home, Christina's had trouble sleeping, lacks initiative with her schoolwork, displays low self-esteem and argues with everyone.
A concerned parent, Pardon of Miami, Fla., starts her desperate search to help her daughter, and discovers a place where people are discussing positive study habits, generating self-esteem, having greater success at school and having happier, well-adjusted children. It was at that moment Pardon felt she found a solution specifically created to solve her problem.
Ancient Art, Modern Solution
"Feng shui is a technique for harmonizing the spaces in your home to make you more comfortable and productive," says Kathryn Weber, master feng shui practitioner and creator of the largest online feng shui newsletter, The Red Lotus Letter. Weber believes feng shui can be implemented into children's lives at home, where they are often out of balance, over-stimulated and in many cases missing from their rooms altogether.
"Kids spend so much time in their rooms – even if it's sleeping – they need a room where they become important, not a cartoon character or a television set," Weber says. Implementing specific techniques, from decorating to furniture placement, can influence children's behavior, study habits, good health and more.
Pardon took the knowledge she gained and applied it to her daughter's life, involving Christina right from the beginning. "Parents need to be the guides in creating these spaces," Weber says. "Ask yourself what message you want to send your children."
"I started talking with Christina about how different places make her feel happy and sad," Pardon says. "I explained that our environment has a big influence on how we feel and act, and we have the power to change our environment and make it a better place." Christina was receptive to the idea. "She didn't want to suffer anymore," Pardon says.
Tips You Can Use
Weber offers these feng shui tips for children:
North: Career & Opportunities
This is a good area for stereos or musical equipment. Weber also recommends pictures of dolphins, whales, fish or round items that are blue, black or purple in color.
Northeast: Wisdom & Education
Children need suitable study areas, and incorporating a desk is key. "Children with study areas are more likely to study," Weber says. "Kids want to do things when they have the space for it." Having a desk tells them education is important. Position the desk facing northeast, and avoid having your child face the wall when seated. They should be able to see when someone enters the room. Weber refers to this as "the command position."
Displaying maps, globes and educational art work promotes an interest in geography and encourages "worldly interests and educational pursuits." Weber says to avoid hanging scary pictures depicting violence or sad and dark subjects. Rock collections, lamps and books are also excellent for this location.
Crystals are used to make computer chips go faster. Placing one in the northeast area will create study "chi" and help sharpen your child's ability to process and think. Weber advises removing televisions from children's rooms. "TV makes kids less likely to study," she says. "Ask yourself what is more important, television or school?"
East: Growth, Health, Family Relationships
Weber suggests keeping this area clean and enhanced with wood, square and dark brown or green objects. This is a good place to set happy pictures of parents to assert parental authority.
Southeast: Growth, Wealth, Material Abundance
Enhance this area with black, green blue or purple colors for creative pursuits with reading, writing and painting.
South: Recognition Sector
Every child needs recognition for a job well done. The south direction represents recognition as well as social relationships, an ideal place to put up awards, medals, trophies, art work and ribbons. Bringing these items together shows your child they are important and encourages them to do more.
Weber suggests enhancing this area with a lamp, bowl of colorful stones and pictures of friends.
Puzzles, games, toys and electronic items work well here. Weber suggests metal, white, round objects.
Northwest: Helpful People Sector
Teachers, parents and other adults are enhanced in this area by adding a small fan or globe.
Beds should have solid headboards and be placed in "command positions" so that your child can see the door. Avoid having the bed positioned on the same wall as a bathroom, as water is associated with waste.
"Children should not see a staircase from their bed," Weber says. "Stairs are energy running down. While you're in bed, you are trying to regenerate energy."
Children with ADHD should never see themselves in a mirror when they are in bed, as mirrors are stimulating and will disrupt restful sleep.
Tying up Loose Ends
Weber also suggests bringing down the volume on toys and quieting down the room by getting control of clutter and color. Weber recommends yellows, beiges and taupe colors, and ceilings should always be white.
Weber says using feng shui techniques does not require hiring an expert. "By using a compass and finding the north section of your room you can create a diagram that will help you determine where to position each element," she says.
"The most important thing is to not look at it as a burden because it involves change," Pardon says. "It should be approached as an opportunity to better your life. The changes are usually minimal, as in our case where we moved Christina's bed to the northeast, changed the color of her room from purple to yellow, kept the bathroom door closed and added a plant and wind chime."
Within three weeks of implementing the changes, Christina made two new friends at school, kids stopped making fun of her and fights between her and her brother dissipated. "She is happier and more confident than I have seen her in a long time," Pardon says.
If you'd like to learn more about feng shui for children, visit RedLotusConsulting.com.