What Parents Should Know
Children may be concerned about Mrs. Farren's delusions, and
how upsetting they are for her daughter. They should know that
most old people are fine, but that some have an illness that
makes them forgetful.
Common Sense Media Review
Plot: Despite the title (insisted on by the studio following
the producer's very successful -- and scary -- "The Cat
People"), this is a gentle story of a lonely and sensitive girl
and her "friend," who may be imaginary or may be the ghost of
her father's first wife. Amy (Ann Carter) is a dreamy
kindergartener, not very clear about what is real and what is
fantasy, and "a very sensitive and delicately adjusted child,"
according to her teacher. Her father Oliver (Kent Smith), still
in great pain from his first wife's tragic death, is very
protective, and worries about her "losing herself in a dream
world." When no one shows up for her birthday party, it turns
out that Amy "mailed" the invitations in a tree, believing that
it was a magic mailbox, as her father had whimsically told her
years before. The party goes on with her parents and Edward,
their Jamaican houseman. When she blows out the candles, she
wishes to be a "good girl like Daddy wants me to be." The next
day, after the other girls refuse to play with her, she finds a
spooky old house, where a voice speaks to her and invites her
inside. A handkerchief falls from an upstairs window,
containing a ring for Amy. She wishes on the ring for a friend,
and later says she got her wish, and that her friend sang to
her. Amy goes back to the spooky house and meets Julia Farren
(Julia Dean), an elderly woman who was once an actress, and who
insists that the other woman in the house is not her daughter,
but her caretaker. Amy sees a photograph of Irena, her father's
first wife, and recognizes her as her "friend." Irena promises
to stay "as long as you want me" but tells Amy never to tell
anyone about her. But when Amy sees a picture of Irena and her
father together, she tells him. He spanks her for lying, and
Irena tells Amy "now you must send me away." Amy leaves the
house in a snowstorm, looking for Irena. When she knocks on the
Farren's door, Mrs. Farren says she has to hide. Her daughter,
bitterly jealous of the affection her mother denies her but
lavishes on Amy, has said she will kill Amy if she ever comes
back. Mrs. Farren collapses trying to take Amy upstairs.
Barbara is furious. But Irena appears, her image flickering
over Barbara, and Amy calls out "My friend!" and embraces her.
Barbara, softening, hugs her back, as her parents arrive. "Amy,
from now on, you and I are going to be friends," her father
tells her, and this time he says that he, too, sees Irena.
Discussion: This movie is not for everyone, but children who
can identify with Amy will like it, and may be able to talk
about themselves in talking about her. Oliver worries that
Amy's dreams will lead to madness, as he believes they did for
Irena. Amy just wants someone who will be her friend, and has a
hard time connecting to other children. The counterpoint is
Mrs. Farren, whose delusion that her child is dead is deeply
upsetting to her daughter, in her own way as needy for
friendship as Amy is. This movie does a good job of showing how
Amy and her parents worry about each other, and that parents
make mistakes. Amy blames herself when her parents argue about
her, and you may want to make it clear that children are not
responsible for family conflicts. Children may be concerned
about Mrs. Farren's delusions, and how upsetting they are for
her daughter. They should know that most old people are fine,
but that some have an illness that makes them forgetful.
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