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FamilyHost_Cheryl - October 30, 2009
The theme of my household over the past few weeks is chaos. Let's see--one son came down with flu and pneumonia, another started student teaching out of town, husband is out of town for work 4 days a week for three weeks in a row and my house is showing the signs of it all. With our oldest son commuting to the school where he is student teaching, I asked my husband to do a few maintenance things on the car when he was home for three days last week, but he never quite got to it. He was also supposed to reset the password for the keypad for our automatic garage door, because no one in the family remembers the current password, but he forgot to do that before he left town and I have no clue where the directions to do it myself would be. The deck still needs the finishing work done on it, but with going out of town to help out another store, he has not found the time to do it. We also have to get the third stall of the garage emptied out so that no one has to scrape windshields this winter, and in Minnesota winter could be here any day now. In his defense, he did do a lot of cooking and laundry while I was sick for a week. Gotta love that! Any suggestions on helping him to remember to get some of these things done without sounding like a nag? The three boys are willing to help so that it goes quickly, but don't want to bring up the subject as they don't want to nag. Suggestions?
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Giggles_all_day - October 31, 2009
What I do when I want hubby to do anything is, I stick little post-its on his dresser, on the bathroom mirror and even have gone so far as to put one in his truck! Or I try the " Honey, I know you are busy and have so much still left to do but is there is any way, can you get to "such and such' (usually the most important task I want done) before you do anything else? Sometimes I even say that I tried to do it myself but I just cannot do it....this usually gets his macho ego going, lol :x
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FamilyHost_Cheryl - November 01, 2009
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  What I do when I want hubby to do anything is, I stick little post-its on his dresser, on the bathroom mirror and even have gone so far as to put one in his truck! Or I try the " Honey, I know you are busy and have so much still left to do but is there is any way, can you get to "such and such' (usually the most important task I want done) before you do anything else? Sometimes I even say that I tried to do it myself but I just cannot do it....this usually gets his macho ego going, lol :x  
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Thanks for the good ideas, Giggles_all_day. I am going to give them a try. Not sure why I did not think of the post-its for him, as I use them to leave reminders for the kids.
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BroncosDad - November 02, 2009
Here's a few thoughts from the male perspective. It sounds like there are lots of things that need to get done. Does he agree? Things that you might consider important might be rather unimportant or even unnecessary to him. I'm not saying thats the case, but men and women think differently, approach things differently, and just because a guy doesn't say "I don't think thats a big deal," doesn't mean he's not thinking it. If you're sure that you are both on the same page, then setting down for five minutes and jointly making out a "to do" list would help him stay focused and remember. You can even prioritize together. Doing so will help you see what he thinks is important and what isn't. It also establishes expectations, and gives you a chance to let him know all of the things that you have done or are doing. Anyway, just a couple of thoughts. :)
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Giggles_all_day - November 02, 2009
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  Here's a few thoughts from the male perspective. It sounds like there are lots of things that need to get done. Does he agree? Things that you might consider important might be rather unimportant or even unnecessary to him. I'm not saying thats the case, but men and women think differently, approach things differently, and just because a guy doesn't say "I don't think thats a big deal," doesn't mean he's not thinking it. If you're sure that you are both on the same page, then setting down for five minutes and jointly making out a "to do" list would help him stay focused and remember. You can even prioritize together. Doing so will help you see what he thinks is important and what isn't. It also establishes expectations, and gives you a chance to let him know all of the things that you have done or are doing. Anyway, just a couple of thoughts. :)  
By BroncosDad
I like that idea! We all know how 'forgetful' males can be and creating a list together might help! :D
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FamilyHost_Cheryl - November 06, 2009
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  Here's a few thoughts from the male perspective. It sounds like there are lots of things that need to get done. Does he agree? Things that you might consider important might be rather unimportant or even unnecessary to him. I'm not saying thats the case, but men and women think differently, approach things differently, and just because a guy doesn't say "I don't think thats a big deal," doesn't mean he's not thinking it. If you're sure that you are both on the same page, then setting down for five minutes and jointly making out a "to do" list would help him stay focused and remember. You can even prioritize together. Doing so will help you see what he thinks is important and what isn't. It also establishes expectations, and gives you a chance to let him know all of the things that you have done or are doing. Anyway, just a couple of thoughts. :)  
By BroncosDad
Thanks for sharing the male perspective. It's always nice to have! I like your comment about making sure that both of us are on the same page about what's important to do.
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