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Confessions of a Single Mom
- Son: Age 14 months
- Washington
- Prefer not to say
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- How was your father's Day?
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Mine was the first of my son not celebrating with his dad. Probably the first of many.
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- Daughters: Ages 22 & 9
- West Babylon, NY
- Work full-time outside home
- kitykat963 - June 23, 2009
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Most likely you are right. My 9 year old daughter's father, again, called to cancel his Father's Day visit with her. The only time he did see her for Father's Day was when we were actively in family court and he was trying to show off. People act differently when they think someone is looking. My grandson's father has ackowledged his son only to the point of putting the child's picture on his "my space" page and buying the child 1 sweatshirt. My grandson is 16 months old. Look, better to have someone not interested not involved then not interested but semi-involved. My grandson will never be confused over his father. His father is sending 1 signal to him - I don't give a damn about you - end of chapter. My daughter, on the other hand, gets conflicting messages from her father depending on whether he has to show off for the court or not, or needs to impress a law guardian. She gets sucker punched every time they go back to reality time. Mom is consistant though. I am there for her.
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- Son: Age 14 months
- Washington
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- mindfulmom - June 25, 2009
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Most likely you are right. My 9 year old daughter's father, again, called to cancel his Father's Day visit with her. The only time he did see her for Father's Day was when we were actively in family court and he was trying to show off. People act differently when they think someone is looking. My grandson's father has ackowledged his son only to the point of putting the child's picture on his "my space" page and buying the child 1 sweatshirt. My grandson is 16 months old. Look, better to have someone not interested not involved then not interested but semi-involved. My grandson will never be confused over his father. His father is sending 1 signal to him - I don't give a damn about you - end of chapter. My daughter, on the other hand, gets conflicting messages from her father depending on whether he has to show off for the court or not, or needs to impress a law guardian. She gets sucker punched every time they go back to reality time. Mom is consistant though. I am there for her.
- By kitykat963
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I was hoping more for some emotional, bonding time with his son would happen. He is not reaching out to his son in that way, he claimed since i turned him away. Why wouldn't I, since I found out he was still married and has a daughter with his wife? He lied to me. I do think you're right, it's either be involved completely or better not if you are just showing off or doing some sort of dad-stuff with highly questionable motive.
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- Daughters: Ages 22 & 9
- West Babylon, NY
- Work full-time outside home
- kitykat963 - June 26, 2009
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I was hoping more for some emotional, bonding time with his son would happen. He is not reaching out to his son in that way, he claimed since i turned him away. Why wouldn't I, since I found out he was still married and has a daughter with his wife? He lied to me. I do think you're right, it's either be involved completely or better not if you are just showing off or doing some sort of dad-stuff with highly questionable motive.
- By mindfulmom
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It's common to hear that it's the fault of the mother and her behavior that leads a man to no choice but to ignore his child. In rare circumstance, it's believable as all types of people make up the world. Most likely, it's your rejection of him that makes him not want to be emotionally involved with his child. Hopefully, father will grow up at, well, at least an equal pace with his child so that HE (the adult) doesn't miss the best years of his child's life. Your baby is entering into the most monumental time of his life. There is teething, recognition factor - even the start of language development. It's also the time when his personality begins to emerge and is shaped and influenced by those around him. Don't push dad to be a dad. He's either mature enough for it or not. You can't change that course, nor should you try to. You'll only frustrate yourself.
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