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Birthday Party Ideas
- Son: Age 18
- Daughters: Ages 23 & 18
- Group Leader
- Alcohol at parties
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How do you handle the big 18 birthday bashes? Having teens myself I see more and more of their friends (parents) serve alcohol at these parties. Do you agree with this? How would you handle it if you found out your child was at this party and offered alcohol?
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- Son: Age 18
- Daughters: Ages 23 & 18
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- FamilyHost_Pia - November 25, 2008
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Wow Pia, I can't believe all this! Tell your son he did the right thing. If is up to parents to let their own children taste alcohol at home and see that they do not like it. My 2nd son turned 18 this past July. I had a surprise party for him and cooked out hamburgers and stuff. There was not alcohol served not even the adults. On NYE parties, we serve pop, it is families, and we have games all over, everyone brings a dish to share, it is BYOB, and we serve champagne at Midnight to adults. I've never heard of such a thing.
- By Carriefunk
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Thank you so much. I did show him everyone's answers to show him that I am not just mom saying it to make him feel better. That is the sad thing about this, the parents that bought the drinks and that they feel that alcohol has to be included to have fun. It was hard for me not to confront the parents right then and there but I had to take a step back and cool off first! I just heard a couple of days ago that charges against the parents did get filed!
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- Sons: Ages 22, 19 & 10
- Daughter: Age 12
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- Carriefunk - November 25, 2008
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Wow Pia, I can't believe all this! Tell your son he did the right thing. If is up to parents to let their own children taste alcohol at home and see that they do not like it. My 2nd son turned 18 this past July. I had a surprise party for him and cooked out hamburgers and stuff. There was not alcohol served not even the adults.
On NYE parties, we serve pop, it is families, and we have games all over, everyone brings a dish to share, it is BYOB, and we serve champagne at Midnight to adults. I've never heard of such a thing.
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- Son: Age 18
- Daughters: Ages 23 & 18
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- FamilyHost_Pia - November 24, 2008
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See that? Maybe your son's actions have made some of the party goers take a long hard look at their or their child's behaviors, possibly preventing something tragic from happening in the future. What about the host of the party? Is he or she answerable to anyone? If it were my kid who left a party because of underage drinking, I would be so furious that someone would have to hold me back from knocking on the door and giving him or her a piece of my mind (what little I have to spare!) I'm so "in your face" about stuff like this!
- By Mom2SammyW
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Well, now the parents are saying that they were not aware of the alcohol, that they came home unexpectedly and had just put a stop to the party. Yeah right!
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- Son: Age 18
- Daughters: Ages 23 & 18
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- FamilyHost_Pia - November 24, 2008
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That's awful! Who is outing him? The kids or the parents? Are they mad because he didn't go with the flow? What bunk! Maybe what you could do is look for pictures of car accidents and send them to the parents to show their kids what can happen when you drink when you're not supposed to. Then I'd tell them that maybe your son did them a favor and saved them some future heartache. Please tell your son that there are parents out here who are very proud of how brave he was not to give in to bad behavior!
- By Mom2SammyW
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The kids of course but we all know where it is coming from. From what I hear several parents showed up to pick up their children and one showed up with the police!
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- Sons: Ages 3 & 5 months
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- Mom2SammyW - November 24, 2008
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[....] Now at 22 he is an alcoholic. I guess the one good thing is that he has not gotten behind the wheel, or at least not got caught yet!
- By FamilyHost_Pia
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See that? Maybe your son's actions have made some of the party goers take a long hard look at their or their child's behaviors, possibly preventing something tragic from happening in the future.
What about the host of the party? Is he or she answerable to anyone? If it were my kid who left a party because of underage drinking, I would be so furious that someone would have to hold me back from knocking on the door and giving him or her a piece of my mind (what little I have to spare!) I'm so "in your face" about stuff like this!
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- Sons: Ages 3 & 5 months
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- Mom2SammyW - November 24, 2008
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[....]. Of course now he is being outed as a loser.
- By FamilyHost_Pia
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That's awful! Who is outing him? The kids or the parents? Are they mad because he didn't go with the flow? What bunk! Maybe what you could do is look for pictures of car accidents and send them to the parents to show their kids what can happen when you drink when you're not supposed to. Then I'd tell them that maybe your son did them a favor and saved them some future heartache.
Please tell your son that there are parents out here who are very proud of how brave he was not to give in to bad behavior!
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- Son: Age 18
- Daughters: Ages 23 & 18
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- FamilyHost_Pia - November 23, 2008
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When I was in high school there were parents who supplied alcohol to some of the parties, but it was usually only if it was at their house so they could keep an eye on everyone. The logic goes that the kids are going to find a way to drink anyway so the parent's might as well offer them a safe place to do it and hopefully stop kids from driving home drunk. It's the same logic as legalizing illicit drugs like marijuana. If it can be regulated, it won't cause as many problems. Trouble is, there are always kids who slip out of the party and drive anyway. I wouldn't put myself on the line (possibly get arrested) for someone I served drinks to.
- By Photo-Drew
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I got to thinking about this last night and my neighbor used to say the same thing about his 15-year old son and the *they will do it anyway, might as well have them do it at home*. Now at 22 he is an alcoholic. I guess the one good thing is that he has not gotten behind the wheel, or at least not got caught yet!
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- Son: Age 18
- Daughters: Ages 23 & 18
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- FamilyHost_Pia - November 22, 2008
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Sounds like we all feel the same way. I did not get the police involved in my case but I did call up all the other parents of the teens that were at this party to let them know what was going on. I just thank God that my son had the good sense to call me to come pick him up when he found out about the alcohol. Of course now he is being outed as a loser.
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- Sons: Ages 3 & 5 months
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- Mom2SammyW - November 22, 2008
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When I was in high school there were parents who supplied alcohol to some of the parties, but it was usually only if it was at their house so they could keep an eye on everyone. The logic goes that the kids are going to find a way to drink anyway so the parent's might as well offer them a safe place to do it and hopefully stop kids from driving home drunk. It's the same logic as legalizing illicit drugs like marijuana. If it can be regulated, it won't cause as many problems. Trouble is, there are always kids who slip out of the party and drive anyway. I wouldn't put myself on the line (possibly get arrested) for someone I served drinks to.
- By Photo-Drew
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Can you image being a kid's parent and getting a visit from the police late at night, telling you that your kid has been arrested or worse, all because an "adult" gave them alcohol? I hate to even think about it.
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- Son: Age 5
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- Photo-Drew - November 21, 2008
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When I was in high school there were parents who supplied alcohol to some of the parties, but it was usually only if it was at their house so they could keep an eye on everyone. The logic goes that the kids are going to find a way to drink anyway so the parent's might as well offer them a safe place to do it and hopefully stop kids from driving home drunk.
It's the same logic as legalizing illicit drugs like marijuana. If it can be regulated, it won't cause as many problems.
Trouble is, there are always kids who slip out of the party and drive anyway. I wouldn't put myself on the line (possibly get arrested) for someone I served drinks to.
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