Dad on a Lark
by Rand Richards Cooper
Lark (lärk): noun. 1. a carefree or spirited adventure. 2. a harmless prank
Dad on a Lark
Lark (lärk): noun. 1. a carefree or spirited adventure. 2. a harmless prank
Larkin by the window
Instead of taking up some issue or theme, today I'm going to sit back, relax, and chronicle the aimless pleasures of a still-new dad hanging with his two-year-old girl on the first warm day of spring.
It begins with one of those funny nonsense conversations one has so often with a toddler. Larkin and I are at the kitchen window, and she's standing on the sill, watching the morning sun navigate trees and rooftops. I stand behind, lightly bracing her. "Dada," she says, "get away from my window!"
"Your window?" I say. "Actually, it's my window."
"No actually it's mine."
"Actually, it's mine."
"No actually, it's mine." This will go on and on, Monty-Python style, till one of us finally caves in. Today it's Larkin. "Dada and Larkin both have windows," she says, calling a truce.
With that settled, at 9 a.m. we walk over to a neighborhood salon called Fashion Flair. Larkin is way overdue for a trim; her hair hangs in her eyes,… Read MoreThis is going to be a less polished column than usual, really more of a primal scream. Here it is, in plain English: I feel like a failure. Not with Larkin, not in my role as her dad. Just everywhere else in my life.
Aaaarrrrggghh!
The problem is time, time, time the lack of it. Molly and I both work a lot, and we were already too busy before Larkin. Now, with her as our number one priority, we can't keep… Read MoreLarkin passed an interesting milestone. For the first time, she was afraid of something. Not something physical, like a dog or loud noise, but something imaginary.
We have a pull-down staircase to our attic, and early on she became fascinated by the yellow cord hanging down from it. One time I pulled the cord, and the door began to open downward, its springs creaking weirdly. Larkin stared, transfixed, up into the void. "Dowken!" she said her wordFor the past few months Larkin has been helping me make coffee in the morning. This began as a way to pry her free from the books she makes us read as soon as we take her out of her crib. "Want to go downstairs and have breakfast?" we ask, after the third book. "Want to help Dada make coffee?"
"Yeah!" she says.
So I take my little barista downstairs and into the pantry. She stands on the countertop, and… Read MoreAbout Me
I began as a fiction writer (my first novel, "The Last to Go," was made into a really bad TV movie, starring Tyne Daly), then branched out to other writing. By now I've written for over 50 magazines, including "Glamour." "The New York Times Magazine," "Bon Appetit," and "Commonweal." Away from my writing desk, I'm a chess fanatic and hopeless basketball addict. Oh yeah, I'm also the family cook.
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